Topic: Bad Few Days

[Dragonfire]

The last few days - at least yesterday and today - have been bad.  My cat Hayley died today.  She had been fine..at least she seemed to be..no acting different or anything.  On Friday she was limping a little bit, and I just thought at first that one of the other critters pounced or something.  By that night, I was afraid something was wrong..she wasn't acting like herself at all.  Saturday morning my mom and step dad took her to the vet - Elmo had to go for an allergy shot so they took her too and were told nothing could be done for her.  The vet said that cats are good at hiding something until it is too late to help them.  The vet also said she was very old.  I got Hayley like 4 years ago..maybe 5.  She was supposed to be 8 then.  Now we are thinking she was older then.  So .  This has been a very bad day.  Especially on top on Angel dying just a few months ago after issues with a...bad vet.  We have a different vet now.

Anyway.  I am ..  well  I don't know.  I need to distract myself for a while or something.

[Kathy]

I'm so sorry Marie. It is so hard to lose a furry family member. My heart goes out to you.

[Najemikon]

Sorry, Marie. Always tough... 

[MEJHarrison]

That sucks.  Sorry to hear that.

[Piffi]

I'm so sorry to hear that Marie

[Dragonfire]

I started to give her her treats this evening.  Lillie eats hers on this cat perch thing, and Hayley always ate hers on the floor by the perch.  I gave Lillie her treats and start to put some down for Hayley too. 
I just keep thinking she should be here.  With Angel, while it was hard too, I had more time to.....accept it before it happened I guess.  Even when my last cat died like 7 years ago, she hadn't been sick or anything, but somehow it wasn't as surprising since I knew she was 18 or 19.  With Hayley, we thought she was 12...really not old for a housecat.  So.  I think that is part of it.  I just..... I don't know.  I'm kind of a mess right now.

[Kathy]

I often do things for my pets that are no longer here. As time goes by the pain lessens and those absent minded things you do will make you smile.

Death is never easy - the loss is so hard on those left behind. The way to cope is different for everyone. I was going to relate some things I do but that doesn't really matter.

Keep busy. Vent. Cry. Do whatever feels right for you.

[Dragonfire]

It is three weeks ago today that Hayley passed...and about 4 months since Angel passed.  I'm still trying to ...deal with all that I guess.  And now.  well.  I still have trouble believing this. 

Buffy, my dog, died this morning.  She was 10.  She was perfectly fine yesterday, running around in the yard, chasing the cats a bit in the house...just her normal self.  And now she's gone too.   
She grew up with Angel - Buffy was just a puppy when we got her, and Angel was 2 at that time.  Buffy has ..seemed sad at times since Angel...but she wasn't sick.  I ... I can't think and I can't concentrate on anything.  I have a class for work going on..I have to read a chapter and do some exercise type things - probably certain tax forms - before the next class on Tuesday.  I was going to do that today.  Well that hasn't happened.  I have other stuff I need to do too..but nothing has gotten done today.  My mom and step dad had to go to Lowes for something earlier and I ended up going, just to get out of the house.  I fell apart when we got home because Buffy laying in the window seat watching for us or meeting us at the door.  I ...hell I don't know. 

This year sucks.  I can't deal with much more right now.  I feel like I'm going to crack up.

[Kathy]

How much can one person take? Oh Marie I'm so, so sorry for all the terrible losses you've endured this year.

Talk it out, cry, do whatever you need to do to help you deal with this new tragedy. I can not imagine going through so much pain in such a short period of time.

There isn't anything I can say or do that will make this any easier. I wish there was something I could do to make you feel better but only time can heal these kinds of hurts.

[Achim]

That is terrible news! Very sorry to hear that.

[addicted2dvd]

Sorry to hear Marie.

I know how you are feeling. We lost our family dog just a few days after I got back from my trip.

[MEJHarrison]

Sorry to hear that Marie.  That's quite sad.  It really sucks when life just seems to dump on you.  But that too will pass eventually.

[Dragonfire]

Thanks everyone.  I guess I'm doing the best I can.  It doesn't help that I got a migraine today.  Normally I don't know what sets them off...somehow I think I know this time. 
I did watch more Big Bang Theory last night..and today.  And crocheted some.  Just trying to distract myself I guess.

Pete, I'm sorry about your dog. 

[addicted2dvd]

Thanks Marie. The hard part was having to tell Britt... and doing so over chat on the computer since for some reason her dorm room phone hasn't been turned on yet.

[Dragonfire]

That would make it even harder.